Friday, July 3, 2020

Waking up …. Getting involved ….

Being from a southern state racism is nothing new to us, we’ve seen it first hand and are now witnessing it at the forefront on a national scale in ways that we have never seen before but should have happened long ago. As, I believe it was Will Smith, said “Racism isn’t new it’s just now being recorded and shared in a variety of ways like never before”. I can’t fathom having to have a talk with my child about walking down a street, or going for a run, or in some cases sadly existing peacefully in my home unaware that that danger is literally at my front door and there’s very little I can do to stop it. Things have certainly escalated in the past few years, hell in the last few months.

These issues should have always been news because the struggle of a large group of our people is newsworthy. Not just during protests, or riots, or even during a pandemic but as we all know the news eventually pivots and changes their focus and the peaceful protest still going on don’t get the coverage they deserve. Until a car is set on fire, or a man returning a helmet gets shoved to the ground, or a rope is hanging in a garage in a very specific manner, or a “Karen” stands “her ground” with her husband and his assault rifle when no one was bothering them to begin with. Then the attention returns but not for any of the right reasons and the message gets distorted, twisted, and sadly diminished.  

We don't know what has taken so long for this to become a national and even a global call to action, but the time to stand up is now. Everyone has the capacity to help all it takes is love and compassion and the ability to know right from wrong and acting accordingly when you are given the chance.
If you are like me you’ve thought how can I get involved, what can I do? Well as Golden told me …. You can help in several ways. You can march. Donate time, money or resources to larger cities with protests for bail. Or on a small scale look local, find the school systems that are comprised of majority students of color, odds are they get less resources &/or funding, donate money, time or supplies to the children there, pay someone’s lunch bill or school fees. Literally anything.  

Give to programs that help low income families that don’t have the financial backing of a federal program. Granted not all people of color are impoverished or low income but due to generations of racism impacting those in charge they tend to pay black women for instance less in the workplace and redraw school districts to clump certain areas together so that black children don't have to be bused in to go to the same schools. Which leads to poor funding then to limited education and then to limited choices after school to working jobs with low pay that make it tough to make ends meet doing things the “right way.” Aka the cycle continues. So the best way to help is to try and break that cycle.

Inner city programs feed the children programs, local community centers all offer programs that work to break that cycle from an early age by offering education and extend choices beyond what they see on a daily basis. Or reach out to women shelters and abuse centers that help provide nice business clothes for women who can't afford them so they can go to job interviews. All of these cost money and your funding would be very welcome. Your time and other resources would be welcome too. However, during this pandemic money might be the way to go.

You can be an ally and if you see someone being a douchebag Karen stand up for those in need or use your white woman/man super power and call out Karen’s in a non-abusive way of course. Don’t be KAREN! 

Other ways to help would be to allow that neighbor or friend who wants to peacefully join the marches by offering to watch their children while they do so. Or ask the neighbor or friend if you can join them at said march. If you do march however please do all of us pale crackers a favor …. don't make shit about you. Be a shield and a record holder use your camera and take notes of cops names and non-cop-wanna-bes names and car tag numbers for anyone behaving outside the law. Realize that within the black community there is also the trans community and should these individuals get arrested for protesting they get thrown into a jail where because of being trans they are beaten abused and raped before bail can be posted. Donate to their cause. Reach out to them and let them know their struggle is equally as important and you are with them. Protect them all with all that you can and then support them fully afterwards.

Check in on your friends and coworkers. Learn the phrase Black Lives Matter FULL STOP. Period. Without trying to pad it. When you see people bird watching or picnicking or buying cigarettes or just trying to live their life mind your own fucking business.

The best thing you can do is invite that neighbor over to the house for something to drink, maybe share a meal, break bread create fellowship. Know that the conversation won’t be easy, it will be uncomfortable and while you might not make a bestie you might not be so concerned the next time they turn around in your driveway to go back home because they forgot something. Who knows you might meet your new bestie and be a better person for it.

Or …. Do nothing at all. Stand on the sideline without adding to the noise, without trying to bend the rhetoric, let their voices sing. Don’t start the chant but maybe join it so it can be louder. Help that person who physically can’t hold up their sign anymore hold it higher. The point is do what you feel comfortable doing in the setting that you find yourself in but know that because you ignore what’s happening it will not go away, nor should it. This has been coming for a long time and it’s just getting started. The world will change for the better. We fully believe that in our hearts.  

This is a turning point, that the light is shining brightly where it needs to at this moment and when my voice is quiet, Golden’s is louder. I believe that we will soon get back to posting about fun things again but for now wear a mask, help when and where you can, and for goodness sakes stop it already with the fireworks. Golden may be team no sleep, but I … I like sleep and I miss it. Days will be brighter soon, I feel it, cause if this is the end game…. well…that will be ok too … I guess.

Marcy & Golden

SayWhat MG

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